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Like I said earlier, like what you like and don't like what you don't like. No issues with not liking the story or how it turned out. I personally preferred Mel's ending. I loathed Leah's ending and felt like THAT ending is the much more insulting of all of them. MC following her around like a puppy after she chose everything else over him. But, my point is that if a couple agrees to date other people and then proceed to date other people it is not cheating, it is not NTR, etc. That's my entire point. Especially when the rules of engagement are defined as "no one is more important than each other."Sure that went well, she is not the one you are married to for 20 years, just you or her were smart enough to end it amicable after a year or so. Well if you are married for 20 years now, you should know the difference between what works short term and long term, that is the thing. Those kind of things work for a while as long as both parties have no jealousy, but the constant tensions it brings on longer lasting relations if you have bad relations with her significant emotional others can not be ignored and does not work without someone taking a serious backseat.
It has nothing to do with the sex in the first place, that is why I used the BFF example and not one she is also sexual with. The fact sex is also involved though beyond just the emotional investment in a serious non-romantic relation, makes it even worse qua impact over time.
The choice, well if you are married to someone or are in a real long term relation and you decide to have someone enter your life that is at least as important to you as that old partner, but does not like that partner and cannot integrate with that partner in a happy relation where they want to coexist and be friends together as well even if no sex together, you know that is going to give tensions and loads of stress for all involved over time if you are over 50 like I am as well. I never seen it work out happily, unhappily yup loads and loads of time even if those friends did not divorce for "reasons". Well that means by entering you actually choose that person over your original relation and is more important to you or you would not do that to your already existing relation. That is why I said she acts childish and egoistic with that choice and if she had been male that would have been the same whether in a polyamory relation or a single lover relation..
And as for my relationships, that one was one of my better ones until I met my wife. Everyone was friends, everyone had a good time. It didn't last forever, just like most relationships don't. Most people don't have one relationship and that's it. Trying to say that my open relationship, that you know nothing about, was a failure because it didn't last forever is sorry logic at best.