I hear ya, man. I merely wish to tread lightly on the thin line between being worried about Nottravis and making assumptions about her personal life. While all of us are well-intentioned, I want to avoid putting more pressure on her or coming across as those ghosts people that only know how to type "update when?". You know, when you're feeling down and having people worrying around you actually makes it worse...I saw the Patreon post when she made it - 18 days ago on April 1. I have two daughters - when one contacts me more than once every couple months I worry, and when the other doesn't contact me for more than a week I worry. I don't doubt they can take care of themselves, it's just a change in their communication pattern that worries me. Which is why I'm worried about Notty now.
It's not rational, and having only her online comms via Patreon and here to go by, not overly indicative of her true, IRL communication style. Still, I worry.
Sorry, Notty, for cyber-parenting.
Which is why I think the only choice we have is waiting for her return and hoping nothing serious happened.
Were she a friend I'd known in real life, I'd give a different speech, of course.