I think I probably shouldn't have been so literal with the tags (I looked at the list when I posted).
e.g. I included swinging because the definition was something like "a couple invite an extra person for sex" which to me is a definition of a threesome (there are some MFFs planned) so I put swinging. So no - definitely not a swinging-based story.
I think I've got the code skills to not mention the things that are skipped later on ... hopefully
I mapped the LI out across a spectrum of three variables: emotional monogamy (requiring the MC be emotionally faithful), sexual monogamy (requiring the MC to be sexually faithful) and each LI has got a few likes and dislikes (including some kinks for some). So some LI will need you (at some point in the game a long way down the track) to be emotionally and sexually monogamous, others won't care who else you sleep with as long as they're the "one", and others will be happy to share you.
Which is where I've run afoul of the Harem / Harem-ish tag I've used. I think a lot of people want the harem tag to be 100% every girl concurrently with you at the end (but some of my characters wouldn't go for that).
I know this game won't be for everyone, luckily we're on a forum full of great and varied content ... so I'm just going to keep going with my thing. I totally understand if it isn't your thing or you don't want to invest your time in it (I am the same way with games).