Bunty365

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Greetings everyone. For those who are interested, this is to let you know that I am now an active member of Sex Addicts Anonymous. As I am 11 years sober from alcohol, this is not my first 12 step program rodeo.

Still, sex addiction is a different animal from alcohol. How deep was my denial over the last 11 years, having the audacity to call myself sober?!

I'm taking my first step: We admitted we were powerless over addictive sexual behavior - that our lives had become unmanageable.

The "we" tells me that I'm not alone in this, and during the Zoom meetings I've attended, I've heard heartbreaking stories. Yet we all have hope of better times ahead through a program that I know actually works.

So as of today I celebrate eight days of sexual sobriety. The compulsiveness has left me. My relationship with my spouse is improving. I think I can stay sexually sober for the rest of this day.
Good Luck Buddy Keep It Up
 

Tawny Fairquim Frolics

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soooo, another story that will not be finished, so disappointing.
Don't be so sure about that. I'm still processing what recovery from sex addiction means to me. In fact, my spiritual program says that my higher power can use anything to heal and finishing this VN may be part of that process.

The main problem for me was the compulsion, not so much the content. Or am I just fooling myself? Stay tuned...
 

Tawny Fairquim Frolics

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After prayerful consideration I've decided to tentatively continue working on this VN.

In my Sex Addicts Anonymous program where today marks my 60th day of recovery, we have what are known as circles. In the inner circle are behaviors that we know we cannot participate in and it's different for every person.

My inner circle includes porn that includes "real" people of flesh and blood. I'm happy to say that SAA ruined this type of porn for me as when I experimented with it early in recovery, all I could think about was what horrible things must have happened to those girls to make them so desperate to join an industry that is largely toxic. I want to keep that attitude as it helps me to deepen my empathy and get in touch with repressed feelings that I've been stuffing all my life. Also in my inner circle is refraining from making up fantasies of "real" people as I don't feel like I have their permission to do so.

The middle circle includes iffy behaviors that are acceptable but could potentially lead to trouble if overindulged. Up until now I've been able to make up fantasies about people that I've made up in my mind without getting triggered into compulsive sexual behavior, and that would include the ones I made up for this VN. The one thing I will avoid is spending the 20-30 hours that I was putting into this VN every week, so the plan is to have micro updates without any deadlines. Having a set deadline would certainly lead to compulsion, so my response to any inquiry about the next update will be "I dunno" unless it's impending.

The outer circle includes healthy behaviors that enrich all of our lives... for me it's intimate moments and outings with my wife. Golfing with my AA buddies. Playing Valheim with my daughter. Shit like that.

Bottom line, I hate not finishing something I started and I have a story to tell. The second half of this VN will focus more on Bunni and her struggle to get her own sexual addiction under control. I can't leave her in that bubble dimension prison for all time, can I?!

One final note for those who are having issues with the art change in the middle of the game. You say that I betrayed you by changing the art?! Well then this VN isn't for you. Now there is a warning for newcomers to this VN who have a tendency to get attached to a certain art style. I feel the new art style fits the more serious nature of the second half of this VN perfectly. I actually discussed the art change in this thread (it begins here) and nobody had an issue with it then, so I'm not sorry about it at all.

Okay, let's see where this goes...
 
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torgpolariski

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in the wizard of oz, the scene after the tornado changed to color, so not alot different from this, with you changing to the new graphics style. i was just alittle suprised, till i got used to it, which took all of 5 minutes. the new version looks much more realistic, so good job. keep doin what you're doin.
and thank you for at least keeping the project alive, excited for the next update.
 

Tawny Fairquim Frolics

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in the wizard of oz, the scene after the tornado changed to color, so not alot different from this, with you changing to the new graphics style. i was just alittle suprised, till i got used to it, which took all of 5 minutes. the new version looks much more realistic, so good job. keep doin what you're doin.
and thank you for at least keeping the project alive, excited for the next update.
Lol, I actually was thinking of citing the Wizard of Oz as an example. I wonder how many people left the theater in 1939 because the art style changed?
 

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Lol, I actually was thinking of citing the Wizard of Oz as an example. I wonder how many people left the theater in 1939 because the art style changed?
Well, I wasn't born then(was born in 66), but, I had to search for a long time to find the original B&W/Sepia version years ago. All I kept finding was the colorized.(Technicolor? Either way it killed the immersion.) Ahaha But, not saying anything about your game. I haven't played it since you changed it. But, if you actually bring this back, I'll take another look.
 

Tawny Fairquim Frolics

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I'm going to do the next release after I finish the second Aiko date, so that will be version 8.3. Again, not saying when it will come out.

First things first, though. I need to redo that disgraceful Betsy defloration animation from the end of Chapter 8. I can't believe I put that out there like that.
 

Vreek

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I'm replaying Long Lost Daughter to get back into the mindset of the VN. I'm still finding typos and clipping issues.

This explains why my Accounting and Proofreading career never took off...
Nice way of telling us you're smart Mr. :sneaky:

"The reason people can’t spot their own typos is because they’re too smart. Our brains concentrate more on what we want to convey through the writing than the actual writing itself. When we proofread our own work, it’s literally a fight between your brain and your eyes."
from

So after some time (and mental distance) you spot all the errors...
 

Tawny Fairquim Frolics

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One thing the readers will notice as this VN progresses is that the dynamics between the MC and his wife April will change. Their marriage dynamic is similar to that which I have with my own wife without the polyamory.

One thing I've realized as I'm recovering from my sex addiction is that the compulsion took my power away. My wife would disparage me with phrases like, "Oh, I see you're still into your sexcapades" and other derogatory shit like that. I just took it because I felt guilty about it.

After joining SAA and setting up boundaries, I've felt empowered to assert myself in my relationship with my wife and I don't take her crap anymore. This has opened up whole new lines of communication and our relationship has improved substantially over the last few months. You will see this reflected in this VN.
 

Sharks are Evil

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One thing the readers will notice as this VN progresses is that the dynamics between the MC and his wife April will change. Their marriage dynamic is similar to that which I have with my own wife without the polyamory.

One thing I've realized as I'm recovering from my sex addiction is that the compulsion took my power away. My wife would disparage me with phrases like, "Oh, I see you're still into your sexcapades" and other derogatory shit like that. I just took it because I felt guilty about it.

After joining SAA and setting up boundaries, I've felt empowered to assert myself in my relationship with my wife and I don't take her crap anymore. This has opened up whole new lines of communication and our relationship has improved substantially over the last few months. You will see this reflected in this VN.
last thing you wrote sounds like you found time to keep working on the game again?
 

Tawny Fairquim Frolics

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Letting everyone know that I'm still here and working on this game.

As I've been proofreading Complex Society I've been inspired and realized that the new Honey Select 2 art style is totally conducive to the new direction for this VN. For me sex has been a plaything all my life, but now I'm experiencing it in a whole new way as I continue to work my Sex Addicts Anonymous program and reinvent my romantic relationship with my wife.

This is not to say that the LLD MC will become monogamous, but as the family helps to heal Bunni and free her from her literal prison of sex addiction, I want to explore how sexuality can be a means of bonding a family (and friends if you choose) closer.

Naturally this could all be a bunch of horseshit and this VN will end up being a total cluster fuck, but I hope you'll enjoy the journey as I find out the hard way whether or not this will work.
 

kevinscottmiller

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Letting everyone know that I'm still here and working on this game.

As I've been proofreading Complex Society I've been inspired and realized that the new Honey Select 2 art style is totally conducive to the new direction for this VN. For me sex has been a plaything all my life, but now I'm experiencing it in a whole new way as I continue to work my Sex Addicts Anonymous program and reinvent my romantic relationship with my wife.

This is not to say that the LLD MC will become monogamous, but as the family helps to heal Bunni and free her from her literal prison of sex addiction, I want to explore how sexuality can be a means of bonding a family (and friends if you choose) closer.

Naturally this could all be a bunch of horseshit and this VN will end up being a total cluster fuck, but I hope you'll enjoy the journey as I find out the hard way whether or not this will work.
eiter way sounds good im sure it will be as conductive to the game as it is for your good health
 
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