that's a bad reason at this stage in the game. Before this chapter leaked, we're 16 chapters in AND an entire previous game. You don't continuously steal coke from the store just because someone gave you your first one for free for marketing
I normally only play the public versions of the games I follow here (also bought a couple on Steam, I loath patreon more than steam), but I understand both viewpoints, they have merit and flaws to it.
I think a lot of the disargreements and anger happen because both sides went to F95 with preconceptions, which not necessarily are true.
F95 is possibly the biggest place on the net to discuss porn games, if you develop a porn game and it is not found here, hard luck your reach concerning patrons will be limited. On the other hand, F95 is also a place full of corsairs and pirates, so if a game is here and maybe even well-received too, it WILL be leaked sooner or later, unless there is a public version not too far behind the patron release.
I jokingly labelled F95 "Pirates & Patrons", because that is what this site is at it´s heart. And it follows normally it´s own unwritten rules too. One such rule is that "the tone makes the music". Devs get normally quite some leeway if they are friendly, have a nice game and/or are reliable.
Take for instance the Devs of "Pale Carnations", who initially never thought they would get this many patrons and followers as they have now. A couple weeks ago, they took a support hurdle they believed to not being able to reach ever with their game. That is a positive of F95. If your game is liked, patrons WILL come to you due to it being available here.
The darker other side of the coin is that leaks of the patron versions WILL ALSO happen, even if there is a public version, esp. if this public version takes rather long until release. These days, "Pale Carnations" rarely makes it to the public release date without it being leaked earlier than that (and PC has a rather short delay for the public release).
Here now comes the fork in the road, how do you react as a developer to these leaks? The devs of "PC" decided, while surely not overly happy about it, to take this as misguided admiration and kept being friendly and took it with grace and humourous snark. Result? Many followers still wait for the public release or a few days longer until playing the new (leaked) update and the game thread is lively and calm. TD and Gil most definitely do not miss out on many patrons and many of their patrons play the leaked version too but stay patrons.
And there are other examples like e.g. "Wifey´s Dilemma revisited" and "Tomie wanna get married" which got quite a push on patrons with being available here and recommended by F95 members. In WDR´s case the dev himself said he is surprised that a whole new crowd came looking into his game (his earlier games were a specific niche, WDR has more paths than just one niche, the F95 members saw and played it and then helped spread the news about the game).
Both mentioned games here have a reliable public release, the devs take the occasional leak (both rarely have one) stoically and voila, everything is a go, both for the devs as for the patrons and/or F95 members.
The problems start when devs clearly intentional use F95 to gain more exposure, but think of any player of the leaked and in the back of their heads even the public versions as patron money lost. L&P the "AWAM" developer is a prime example of this, who rants about and insults F95 members and even whale(!) patrons of his as rats and worse. Here clearly only the money counts, not his game and he conveniently forgets that the people he insults today, yesterday gave him money and exposure reach.
It does not make the leaks morally better, but understandable. e.g. L&P, no matter how much he tries to prevent leaks and seeths at even teaser material (which is specifically made for promotion!) becoming public, there are even among his most loyal patrons people who leak the updates near instantly, because they too are pissed off at how the devs treats them.
Developers who show that the game they make are works of love for a vision they have, will get great leeway from the community and the leaking of updates and stuff will be reduced or in steady stretched intervalls not hurting their patron income. And we have cases here, where the Dev evidently needs the money made for living, the community will not leak before the public release!
As said the tone makes the music. Threats are defintely the wrong way, no matter how (rightfully) annoyed you are.