Huh? Based on what? That he is a man?
In that case MC has the right to hate and mistrust her because she is a woman and is most likely just going to abandon everyone. Does that make sense? Didn't think so.
If the old bag did keep an eye on him as she claims she would have known he is nothing like Martin. She would know what his life was like and what his girlfriend did. Elaine herself had a good husband, so unlike her daughters she should know there are good man out there. Her pathetic excuse of "I am just protecting my family" for treating her grandson like shit the first time she meets him is not an excuse at all. She is pathetic and unredeemable.
She just wants everyone to know that she is in control and will do whatever the hell she wants. She has not done a single thing to help her family. All she ever did was spy on her grandson, doubt and blame her daughter for "abandoning" MC, split her family by allowing Mary to constantly shove her nose where it does not belong and talk with her behind everyone else's back. She did nothing to help her granddaughter (Lucy) when the kid was tormented at school. Everyone knew Lucy was being bullied so she would have known as well. She spied on MC but she couldn't have figured out what was happening to Lucy? Bullshit.
BTW. MC will give her another chance this time. I can't forgive her, but MC is different, luckily. Still think they should just dump her in an old age home and come visit once a year, two weeks after christmas.
Yeah, no, you assumed a lot there, she has every reason to believe he is like Martin because he was fucking raised by him, like WTF, you logic just made no-sense in those two first lines, also I'll just quote another post where I explained why even though she keeped tabs on him she should not know what his personality is like:
Okay, I did say that this part of the writing bothered me though, at the end of the post you can read that, but as I said I would play devil's advocate I will actually answer this.
All of the things you said can be found through hacking, phone-records, private investigators, social media, and probably many other options for a very rich and powerful lawyer, my money is in private investigator that did all the rest, now something a PI couldn't know unless they got close to the MC, befriended them and interacted directly: Their personality, social media is not enough for someone to learn the full range of a person's personality and although observation and keeping tabs of basically everything else might be useful to trace a profile it isn't flawless and it normally needs a lot of actual contact, the PI would have been instructed to not interact directly with anyone as to not attract Martin's attention, and any other option would make direct interactions impossible, therefore, no, she couldn't know what the MC's personality is, that if the Mc actually interacted with the outside world in any significant way, I can actually start a profile of most people that I watched and interacted with in this site, it wouldn't be totally accurate, not even if I WERE a professional, but that is because they expose their views and interact activilly with the world/internet.
I don't expect anything from anyone, expecting things from people only end in disappointment, but as I said above that is the reasons why she shouldn't unless the MC had a psychologist or psychiatrist that broke confidentiality, or friends, but I'm pretty sure he didn't have those, she is most of those things she was a lawyer after all, but jokes aside that is the reason why in another post I said I didn't was 100% ok with her.
Now to address the rest of what you said: Knowing he had an average to shit life and his girlfriend cheated on him means nothing, actually being that he was raised by Martin that would make her wearier as it would mean that he had all the excuses to be like him, having a difficult life doesn't default you to a good person.
Yes she did have a good husband, but she is a cynical person, and a lawyer, she saw way more bad people then good, and Martin the father of the MC was one of those as well as the other two husbands, so genetic and everyone dictates that most likely the MC would be like Martin, hell it has taken years for me to break away from the shit my father taught me and I haven't interacted with him in more than ten years.
That is mostly your opinion so will just skip it.
Most of those points are correct, but letting Mary do whatever she wants is not something I'll count in your favor, Mary is an adult and is the only one responsible for her own actions at this stage, and about talking to her behind everyone's back, what? They do not have a responsibility to talk in front of everyone and no-one is entitled to know what they talked about.
About Lucy, I'm pretty sure Lucy herself didn't let people help her a lot, hell Fiona, if asked, could easily get Tanja expelled from what we know, but as someone that suffered bullying, we prefer to deal with it ourselves most of the time, either because schools are a joke while dealing with it or because involving parents only makes it worse, I, on the other hand, am a male and knew how to fight, so yes Lucy story is sad, but not a point against Elaine either otherwise it would be a point against everyone including Fiona.
And that is the difference between you and the MC, he has empathy and chooses to use it more often than not.
Again to clarify, I'm just playing devil's advocate because it is fun for me and I want to learn your points of view, don't take anything personally.
edit: Also I might have come out a little more aggressive then I should but so did your post, I ended up matching the energy.
. I saw someone mention again that the mc is biased against men, because he only forgives women. The Erics never showed any remorse for bullying Lucy, the mc asks them many times too stop doing that and apologize and they refuse. The mc's father until the very end also never felt any remorse for all the shit he did, even in the letter he left for the mc he still was being a piece of shit. Tanja and Elaine enventually realize that what they did was wrong and apologize and try to become better people.
