Well, it's a double edged sword, isn't it? You started your statement with what was opinions stated as fact. "Taken a turn for the worse", "lesbian crap". Then you questioned "why is it that you think women who are no Lesbians would not be turned off by someone hitting on them that is, and why do you think a hetero male would trick anyone into it" - and that is where Arctus chimed in. You claim that your experience is logical and this shouldn't be happening, he was answering that it was the intrinsic logic of the game. Just like you don't suddenly have 8 girls falling head over heels for you in real life, these things happen. You may not like it, I am not too large a fan of it either, but you took the wrong approach. Why does Faerin think they're doing it? Because that's the story.
Basically you were confusing your own opinion of how you like the story to be with the idea that the story cannot be this way. The former is your opinion, and you're perfectly entitled to it, the latter, to which arctus was responding, you cannot claim.