Even if elias was the first who ever did wrong in their marriage, it's an evil deed by felicia to participate in something so outrageous in the club, things that are purposefully designed to utterly humiliate her husband in front of his peers. She might not have been expecting those things when she joined, but she still does them now. That's an evil woman for me. Denying an important wish is not even in the same ballpark.
i just want to remark that thats an extremely subjective analysis, i think that evil much more than being extremely cruel to someone you hate with a reason(good or bad). I could try paint Elias indiference as a sing of evil since her wife's wish would also affect the young people of her hometown but in all honesty i feel like that would be reaching. Evil is a strong word and personally the worst adjeactive that could pin into either of them is selfish or self-centered but i would definetely not call either of them evil.
If we reversed the roles, this would be an example:
Felicia denies elias wish to stay a trophy wife by stopping to work out and therefor getting fat. In response elias looks for a new trophy wife by bulldozing the art school and building a model agency there.
I mean this with no disresspect intended but i notice a heavy bias in wich your choice of words maximizes the wrong doings of Felicias actions and minimizes the ones of Elias, and that role reversal example doesnt help either.
Why you ask? because how absurd it sounds.
1. losing shape on itself has no emeotional impact for Elias (like her humilliating him by cheating), a better example would being out of shape during a life or career defining event for him. But since getting fat is not inmidiate process one has a hard time that happening withouth Elias noticing.
2. How does getting a trophy wife leads to destroying that expecific school? the scenario so absurd that is hard to take seriously
3. ignores that in both cases the school affects multiple people while getting and cheating only affect Elias, so intentionally buldozing the art school of multiple children is no way a parellel for Felicias excesive cheating or even to Elias refusing to help to save it.
Saying that that absurd hypotetical is an equivalent sitaution is like saying that Felicia is doing things for no emotional reason at all and her actions have no discernible connection with her objectives ( in the same way that having a new trophy wife and destroying a school have no connection to each other)
I want to bring something that i didnt think it was necesary to mention but now i belive otherwise, the aparent (in my opinion) reason of why Felicia hates Elias and revels on his humilliation.
But first lets put into context something, this school was the most important thing for Felicia. For how she describes it was almost a refuge for her. This wasnt just "i want a dress or a car of an island" this was "please i want to save of the most important thing for me to no detriment of your own" and he said no for (as far as we know) no good reason. All her other luxuries pale in comparison to that moment and we know it because she is willing to risk that life of confort to make sure she is never in that situation. Its like if she cheated just once but with his father (if he was alive), it doesnt matter if it is just one time when the damage is inmense.
That explains why she wanted to enter the Carnation but not why she enjoys the humilliation of Ellias, it doenst explain the hatred. There is a reason why i brought the issue of respect, not only because is common sense that respect fosters healthy relationship of any type but because Felicia herself brings it up.
"I had no illusion of the nature of our relationship, but i foolishly thought that after some time, he might have the smallest amount of respect for me. Im... a fuckin' moron "
Felicia begged for that money, something she shouldnt had done in the first place but she did. Even as a trophy Elias must have known that it wasnt something she did lightly. But he didnt care and told her to know her place, he didnt have the minimum of respect for her. The breaking of their contract when it mattered the most and the complete lack of respect for her was what drove Felicia to seek both independence and revenge.
in other words is not
"
Not caring about the most important thing of your spouse<----> Actively destroying the most important thing of your spouse"
but
"Refusing to save the most important thing in your spouses life despite her begging and pleading for it and instead scolding her for insisting on it"<----> Actively destroying the most important thing of your spouse"
There are those who think that choosing inaction (when one has the means to act) is a form of action, under that scope there is no difference between refusing to stop the destruction of something and actively destroying it.