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@mehGusta
I'd like to address your side-note separately because that's probably the one you're (all) the most curious about. I'll give you the whole story.
It was all her idea. She came to me about a year into our (D/s) relationship, she already had a collar she was free to wear or not at any time. She wore that collar from the moment she came home until she curled up in to bed with me at night, every single day. She couldn't wear it in public because she has a relatively high-status job, so it was kind of incompatible. She told me she wanted something she could wear in public, something she could wear out in public for all to see, that she was mine, that she belonged to me and nobody else, without it being seen as that. Just something that only we know about, a secret taboo-ish something. This idea turned her on like CRAZY, really, really, really CRAZY. And to be honest it also made me tremendously horny.
I first suggested a ring like I still wear from my former Dominant(in case you were wondering she is fine with me wearing that by the way). But she didn't want a ring, she said and I quote: "the only rings I'm ever going to wear are going to be through my flesh or around my left ringfinger". Also, she wants to wait with getting married until we're both in our early 30s and we wanna start a family together, maybe. We're still young so we're taking our time. Anyway, a ring was out.
Giving what she said about piercings I wanted to suggest she get one, but she was way ahead of me and wanted to keep any possible piercings for special occasions (anniversaries, great accomplishment etc.) So I moved onto the next logical thing (you know with piercings and tattoos usually being done at the same place), a tattoo. We had a very serious and long conversation about something this personal and possibly permanent. We hadn't yet decided it was gonna be a heart but she wanted something with my initials in it, and I put my foot down. I said no. Not because I didn't love her enough or anything but because I didn't want to take the risk that if we broke up or worse, that she would have a permanent reminder of that. We had our biggest fight ever about it (it was bad, the worst week of my life).
I'm not gonna go into details about the fight because this post is long enough as it is and she doesn't want me too. She's sitting next to me as I write this by the way, correcting my spelling and grammar and ever so annoyingly caressing my neck. Let's just say she got what she wanted, she convinced me why, no matter what happens she wanted my initials on her body, for the rest of her life. And that's about it, three weeks later she got the tattoo, on the small of her back. It looks like the emoji heart on your phone, it's about the size of average fist, with my initials written into it in beautiful calligraphy. To strangers and friends it looks like an unassuming, average tattoo, same as many other people in a relationship might get. To her it wasn't just a physical experience getting the tattoo, but also a mental one. While she was getting it she says she felt that tattoo and its meaning being imprinted on her mind and brain as well.
As I said it was/is one the greatest statements of love I will ever experience. I don't think I'll ever understand what I did to deserve her.
