There's a lot of selfish amoral political manipulation in both where it doesn't make sense for a vassalage-based setting (where power is very distributed so where there are a lot of peers and near peers to worry about). ASoIaF is the obvious choice for the source because it was kinda innovative with this. And its the 2nd most successful fantasy setting since 2000. Its influence on later fantasy and thinking about history for the uninformed public is hard to overstate.
And let's just say, that perspective puts strangely too much attention on elites when it comes to oppression.
About grimdark, this guy's definition (from Wikipedia) fits well and should make it obvious it's valid for ASoIaF/GoT and Seeds of Chaos:
This hits the problem on the nail with grimdark's pretention about historical realism, and this vision of realpolitik fits behaviour in actual
states way better.
Dunno about those other people, my guess they came after that part with the knightess. Let's say that when I played it, it wasn't communicated to the player it was open before the options came up. There sure are fantasy games that have open relationships as the default (for the MC at least) but those are obvious horniverse settings usually.
To be honest, I think my "assumptions" are more in line with how the average person thinks,
even in "polygamous" societies (where most married people will still have 1 spouse anyway).
Yes, it went like
Alexia was kidnapped, Rowan searched for her for months, then was tortured and imprisoned for months, and then forced into a "deal" with the Trumpy twins. Rare case that a game violated my "no unavoidable rape" red line for the MC as "perpetrator" of sorts or bystander, and then as victim on the "best" choice.
I didn't know it damages the relationship with his wife, but if that's right that means it isn't an open marriage.
To be fair...
... that'd be a fetish for a lot of people too.
Right, yes there have been examples where devs put tracking stuff in and that never went well. Every time there's a case when a game uses an internet connection there's a big commotion. And pirates are pretty paranoid in the best of times.