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Even though I personally agree that exhibitionism is pretty tame, I do not think you can really compare between kinks because they serve different aspects.Trying to think of a kink that is tamer or more prevalent than exhibitionism. It's in like nearly every game in some manner. Super common and about as vanilla as you can get besides having missionary sex through a sheet.
People need to stop thinking of these games as your meal. It's not your meal, it's a menu: if you like everything on the menu then awesome eat the whole thing, if not, well that's too bad but you're not going to go hungry.
I mean i hate sushi but you don't see me going to a Japanese restaurant and asking them to cook my sashimi
For example, let's consider a fully equipped SM dungeon with all the equipment you ever dreamt of and some you still try to figure out how in the hell you could use that (and if somebody told you, you would put your fingers in your ear and scream "lalalalala I cannot heeeeeear you lalalalala"). Probably not as tame. Then again, when you and your significant other spend enjoyable quality time in your dungeon, nobody outside the two of you ever needs to know and you can keep your social life the same, while one of the things about exhibitionism (except for the feeling of being watched itself) is the thrill of "what will happen". In essence, it can have consequences for your life that SM wouldn't have. So is it really tamer? Either way, precisely this possibility of consequences can be both a big turn off or a big turn on.
And I am not so sure about prevalence either, at least in my personal experience, exhibitionism in most games is kind of a side show, if at all existing - but of course our personal experiences will always be biased by what we like, because most people will seek out certain games and what they feature we will encounter more and what we explicitely hate we will encounter less but it will feel like it's more - and what we don't care about we will probably not notice at all.
And finally, in my opinion it may be a different beast whether a potential LI is the exhibitionist, or the MC, or both of them together, or combinations of those. E. g. if I am having a public scene with a girl and MC, everybody who will watch will realize that girl and MC belong together, while a cam girl (or solo exhibitionist) at first glance seems ripe for the taking. Of course specifically this plot twist (onlookers think they can have her but really you can't) may be a boost in the once scenarion, while in the other the showing off (look, this is what I got, my car, my house, my golden watch, my bitch) may be what interests you.
You are perfectly correct about the conclusion though: A dev will make a game and we will like it or not, but it will not be cooked to order. Especially not to order by those of us who only leech on this forum. So take it or leave it to us.