Not that it's the fault of the moderators of this forum, but this excessive nagging and conspiracy theories are largely deems fault. There is nothing wrong about missing a deadline every once in a while. It happens. I think the reason that people are getting so suspicious is that he kept on stating that it would be out by the end of the year, even up until a few days before. Then it turns out that there is shit-loads of work left a week later, once people are given more insight into the details, clearly in order to "calm them down."
It all makes sense from deems perspective, I suppose. It's not that uncommon to misjudge deadlines, and quite a few people have a need not to disappoint. Once the deadline has been breached, it makes sense to try to calm people down by showing them details to debunk their concern. The problem is, that it's also exactly what one would do if the project was abandoned, and you wanted to string people along until the next payment was due.
I can't really claim to have a solution. The circumstances surrounding the deadline are unfortunate enough that it makes sense for this to have some impact on deems trustworthiness among his patrons. His income might, therefore, take a hit. Now, I get that you don't much feel like having this thread be clogged with people whining on and on about this, but it's really only one person who is to blame for the state of affairs. It therefore makes sense for people to have a place to vent their frustration and semi-reasonable doubts.
I do, however, think that the only reasonable conclusion to any debate is: If you don't trust him anymore, that makes sense. Feel free to cancel your donations until release. As long as deem redeems himself before next payment is due, there is no problem. And if he doesn't ... well, then their suspicions were well grounded.
PS: I hope this isn't one of those posts you have to delete. I just wanted to share my opinion on the whole matter, hopefully in a reasonable way. Personally, I am looking forward to finding out how the game looks in 2.0, and don't much care about all the drama.