You can be the most alphaest alpha out there and still loose a girl. Maybe even because you are that strong alpha male.
For me its about the thrill and the joy to "fight" for the girl(s) I wann a fuck. Maybe one of the girls caught you cheating on her and then she will revenge fuck some other dude. I dont have to see that - maybe see how they both enter the bathroom or stuff like that - and maybe she tells you what she did or you see some evidence when they leave.
I dont want to be a cuck, but most games let you free fuck and that has no consequences. I dont have that in every game, but I wished that more games would try that. But I can even share - when the game is written well enough and I like all characters involved.
I hate these pure beta ntr games where you get humiliated - that is as boring as bad harem games
In general there is not that many kinks I cant deal with in these games - urination and poop is probably the worst, I just dont get that. Everything else is ok. As an example, I am not a fan of fem dom in games with male MCs, but imho Karlsons's Gambit is a great game, because you can try to fight the "system" - sure, there will be humiliation, but you have at least some control how that might play out. Its not a fap game for me, but a fun game to play.