Right on man, and i agree, Ocean and DPC imo are the only Dev's I'd trust with handling something like NTR and not fetishize it. Especially Ocean lol he'll most likely make you feel like shit for being an asshole and have you sympathize with the cheating Li instead of the MC.
So far there's been only a handful of games that made me feel terrible for choosing to cheat and made me sympathize with the Li. Most recently it was No More Money, when Emma(the gf) catches the MC cheating on her. If you get through that scene without feeling like an asshole then I don't know