I can understand your passion behind this project. I agree, life comes first and school does too. But his communication is no excuse, not at all. I bet in the last week alone he could have spent 5-10 mins logging onto Patreon to post a statement of "This is it, Life is my priority, game is closed for now." But he doesn't because either he's too lazy or he wants the $$$. The lack of communication is half the problem, other half is lack of content. Again most projects have been updated 5 times in the last 5-6 months since this game hasn't had any. Your reasoning of TOS means more dev time is honestly silly. He renamed the game, took out the incest. It's not like every update requires him to make ENTIRELY new scenes and such for incest, it's a 2KB patch to redo dialogue, that's it.
Long story short the game is dead in the eyes of its fans. Abandoned in our eyes if not his. Yes life is important, I agree he should focus on that but he has not handled his project well at all. Like I said before, if the work load is too damn much. Simply stick to writing and get someone else to rig assets and scenes, relay them to him and he can give the final critique but he either wants to remain in control, which is fine, or he is just not bothering to update us.
Do you personally think half a year without any official content update or any official, transparent information update is acceptable? Would you think people who paid 10$ or so a month since July are getting what they're paying for because I certainly don't. If Patreon ToS is fucking devs, how come The Twist updates every half month or so and Summertime Saga is still rolling on to this day? The incest block may have been a tiny hiccup from the start but it's not stopping anyone now.
TL;DR School and life important, so is being open with your fans who you're taking money from. Until official statement is made, no excuse cuts it.