is personality that important? tbh i still didnt know for sure what variable it affect, is it obedience? because until now im ignoring it and im fine so why bother.
From my understanding, but I'm not 100% certain:
It is one of the stats influencing the slaver's aura (what exactly goes into aura isn't mentioned ingame anywhere, I think).
Slaver aura vs slave aura influences for some actions how likely the slave is to obey (the toileting rule, actions like put in place, not sure what exactly else).
It also influences the cap on daily taming growth from clothing.
And I think it influences how effective rewards and punishments are.
EDIT: And eating in the club, which needs a certain living standard, saves a lot of money. Doesn't work if you need S+ food of course, but that's only necessary when you want S+ strength anyway, which I'd consider an end-game luxury.
EDIT2 to avoid double post, didn't see the reply:
The bottlenecks are obedience and devotion. I've had slaves where I've literally trained almost every non-sex skill to B/A rank and trying to reward/punish appropriately without raising spoiling, only to have them stuck at 3-5 obedience range for 20-30 days since I can't get them to do anything that would grind down their pride.
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I also have no idea how she kept gaining pride despite the fact the worn items alone should have given her -2 every day, unless I'm misreading the wiki.
Most rules lower pride each day, but only some can lower it all the way to 0. The easiest for that is the deny-toileting rule, that one can even be followed on negative obedience if your aura is strong enough. A second really good one, if your slave follows it, is the vaginal beads one, but that requires an arleady somewhat obedient slave.
If pride increases, the most likely culprits are:
- you're not setting enough rules to follow
- the slave is disobeying rules, and you aren't forcing them
- you are failing during talk actions (like put in place)
I'd say that your first goal should be to make a few C+ slaves, which doesn't require any devotion, and no A+ skills. Avoid ones with problematic stats (extremly bad stamina, weight or pride, mostly). You can in theory go for B+ slaves right after your first C+ one, but I recommend doing a few to get a feel for breaking through early obedience problems.
EDIT3: Oh, and the wiki item descriptions are outdated. Pride lowering got removed from some items. If the clothign screen doesn't say that it lowers pride, then it doesn't.
EDIT 4: forgot to mention devotion. Easiest way to get it up is successfull dating or sex rewards. Only once each per day, I think. And you can get a boost from a potion, but that's more late-game.
Besides that, you get some passive devotion growth if the other training stats are high enough, and the slave is happy.